Everything You Need To Know About Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette Skip to main content

Traditionally, a wedding rehearsal dinner is for the family and wedding party to enjoy one another’s company before the couple says I do. The couple will take the time to thank everyone involved with the planning of the event. Are you ready to start planning your rehearsal dinner but are not sure where to begin? We’ve put together a list of everything you need to know about your rehearsal dinner.

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Who is invited?

Of course these rules are only a guideline! Most couples usually invite their wedding party and their plus 1s. If you have children that are participating in the ceremony, it is a nice gesture to include them and their parents in the event as well. All parental figures, siblings (and their plus 1s), and grandparents should be included in the rehearsal dinner as well.

Where is the ideal place?

You’re probably going to want to skip McDonalds for this meal, but you don’t need to have everyone dress in black-tie either… save that for the wedding! Keep it simple and private by renting out the private dining room of a restaurant or hosting in someone’s backyard if weather permits.

Who foots the bill?

This is where the lines get blurred and it’s ultimately up to you and your families. Traditionally, the bride’s family takes care of the cost of the wedding, so it is customary for the groom’s family to take care of the bill for the rehearsal dinner. However, the dynamic of every family is different, so don’t discount the to-be-married couple from paying or have the bill split evenly between the two families.

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When does the dinner happen?

Most couples choose to have a run through of the ceremony the day before the wedding, and then have the rehearsal dinner immediately after. If a different day is better suited to you and your guests, then don’t feel obligated to do it the day before the wedding.

What happens?

It is customary for gifts to be given to the wedding parties from the to-be-married couple to thank them for all of their efforts in planning the event and participating in the ceremony. Toasts are very common and often given by the host of the dinner. The to-be-married couple may even want to say a few words to their family and friends.


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