Dos and Don'ts of Wedding Thank Yous | EBE Talent

Once the post-wedding glow sets in and things calm down, it’s time to sit down and write thank you notes to your guests. It can feel like an endless task if you received a lot of gifts, but don’t fret! When following a few key tips, it can be a painless task that will make you feel satisfied once completed.

Do: Write a few of them at a time.

To avoid messy handwriting, smeared ink, and hand cramps, write 5-10 at a time. If you had 100 guests in attendance, you can accomplish this task while sitting on the couch watching Netflix in about a week or two. Pacing yourself will also allow you to think of a more heartfelt message to send to the recipient, and it will absolutely show when the note is read.

Do: Send the notes out within a couple of months.

By writing the notes in batches as mentioned above, sending out the thank you notes can be accomplished within a few weeks. However, if you do procrastinate in sending them, try to have them in the mail within a couple of months after the event.

Do: Check spelling of names and addresses.

It can be easy to misspell someone’s name or write down the wrong address. If that happens, the thank you note may end up the world of lost mail, and the gift-giver may never receive it. Double check everyone’s address that you’re thanking and the spelling of their name to ensure easy and proper delivery to the destination.

Do: Give a little detail.

Letting your guest know how you plan on using the gift is always a nice touch! For instance, you can thank them for their cash gift and let them know how excited you both are that you are able to put it towards your honeymoon. If it is an item for your home, you can express your gratitude for having coordinating and matching items now.

Don’t: Send pre-written notes.

A wedding gift is generally something that loved ones spend time thinking about and put effort into getting for the wedded couple. Sending a handwritten thank you note is the least that you can do to show appreciation for their kind gesture. Don’t take the easy way out by sending pre-written thank you notes.

Don’t: Forget the guests who weren’t in attendance.

Guests who could not make the wedding sometimes decide to send a gift regardless. Make sure to add these people to your list, and tell them how much you wish they could’ve been there.

Don’t: Write a lengthy essay or novel.

Expressing gratitude does not mean you have to be overly wordy. You can accomplish an endearing “thank you” in 4 or 5 sentences. Mention the specific gift that was given, how you plan on using it, and thank the recipient for attending their wedding if they made an appearance.

Don’t: Send digital thank you notes.

We know that everything is online these days, but there’s nothing like opening a sweet card from the mail. Your guests will be happy to receive your card, and are likely to display it in their home, especially if there’s a photo on it.

With these tips you will be on your way to being a pro at thank you note writing! If these tips helped you out, we would love to hear from you. Contact us to let us know!


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